Tragedy in Beyoncé’s Life Forced Her to Become a Mother First and Foremost to Herself Beyoncé has lived a life that only one can dream of, her career is monumental, she’s been in a relationship with her husband JAY-Z for almost 20 years and she has three adorable children. But it’s been tragedy, pain, and loss that has made her into the woman she is today. In her “Elle” interview Beyoncé talked about having miscarriages before the birth of their oldest daughter, Blue Ivy. “I learned that all pain and loss is in fact a gift. Having miscarriages taught me that I had to mother myself before I could be a mother to someone else,” said Beyoncé. What have you learned from the tragedies in your life?